C.E.O

Imagine this, you became a C.E.O overnight? I mean, no hard work, no degree needed, no prior experience and certainly without having to climb the corporate ladder. No application process, no interview, no waiting in anxiousness until you find out the outcome; the position literally just fell in your lap. Even more excitingly, what if I told you, you can create a brand without having to raise capital, no business plan needed, and it only depended on your internal analysis.

Ladies, YOU ARE THE BRAND and you ARE the C.E.O of your own life.

[1]A chief executive officer (CEO) is the highest-ranking corporate officer (executive) or administrator in charge of total management of an organization. An individual appointed as a CEO of a corporation, company, organization, or agency typically reports to the board of directors.

Okay, so let’s break down the definition above!

Highest Ranking – it means you are the top in your life, an elevated level to which people must step-up to. Tell the grown boy to step up or step out!

In charge of total management - You have the power to determine what comes in and what comes out. You have total management of your being; spiritually, physically, mentally & emotionally.

Report to the board of directors – Your board/director is GOD! No more and no less. He is the One of whom you live your life through & for, give your life to, reverently & fearfully obey. He is the one who will determine your footsteps; He knows your every thought, He knows your end before your beginning & just like a Board of Directors, He has a lot of experience in this thing called ‘life’ and won’t let you invest yourself or time in something or someone who He knows won’t reap the correct dividends. He’s a purposeful living God and understands that life is ‘but a vapour’, so why let us waste time not pursuing our purpose or having those people in our lives that are more a liability than an asset.

Now with that broken down, let’s get into the realness of this revelation. As a young 24 year old woman, I have been through the mill & back and I genuinely prayed that someone had told me the information above before I went out into this world & tried to make things work my way, but I also thank God for the opportunity for being able to come to this realisation; better late than never right?! Through my life experience, or test should I say, God was faithful to turn it into my testimony & then transform it into ministry. It is now a passion of mine that every woman I come into contact with understands her purpose, why she was created and how precious she is in the sight of God. I know it may not feel like it sometimes, but in His word it says:

Genesis 2:18 ‘Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.’ (AMP)

According the www.thefreedictionary.com the definition is as follows:

Adj.	1.	adapted - changed in order to improve or made more fit for a particular purpose;

adaptable

adjective

1. flexible, variable, versatile, resilient, easy-going, changeable, modifiable, conformable They are adaptable foragers that can survive on a wide range of foods.

com·ple·men·ta·ry adj.

1. Forming or serving as a complement; completing.

2. Supplying mutual needs or offsetting mutual lacks.

NOTE: the word adapted – not adaptable! To be ‘adapted’ means you are already suited to the environment; already made perfect to fit perfectly to your purpose! That’s the point of your process!

‘Adaptable’ means you are agile, able to be flexible to any ‘Adam’! NO – you are created ‘adapted’ perfectly to your Adam! So you don’t have to wake him up! Hallelujah! Pressure off; you can go about this life, active in your wait upon your Adam! Isn’t that so cool?

Once Adam had given names to all the livestock, it is written in Genesis 19-20 that there was STILL not found a suitable & adaptable help meet for him. So the other revelation I catch from this that your Adam, at this very moment in time may be in a relationship, even unsaved, out in the world sowing his wild oats! But believe me when I tell you, at the right time, God will bring him across your path and who knows sis? You may even end up being a catalyst for change! PRAISE GOD RIGHT NOW!

Genesis 2:21 -23 ‘And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and WHILE he slept, He took one of his ribs or part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. And the rib or part of the side which the Lord God had taken from man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. Then Adam said ‘this [creature] is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken OUT of a man.’  

The scripture above explains the process to how Adam met Eve. There was NO her asking him, or anything! Literally, she was going about her business with the big boss man (God) and along her way she was introduced (at the right time) to Her ADAM! Basically, you WILL meet him at the right time.

Now don’t get me wrong, I have made many mistakes in my life! Manipulated in order to wake up the person who I thought was ‘the one’ and trust me for a while it worked. Things worked perfectly for the first 4 years – the last two were the worst 2years of my LIFE (so far), we were having fun, all things were working together for my/our good until things got boring. He was pleasing me, I was pleasing him and everything was going perfectly! We would hang out, watch movies, go on dates, get it in etc. You see, I’m not saying that when your saved your relationship won’t go through dry seasons, but when you are dating somebody the worlds way, once you’ve done all you can do – I mean ALL you can do with (and to) each other, what else is left? A big fat pot of NOTHING!

That’s where discontentment sets in and you begin to believe the lie that the grass is greener! Honey, the grass ain’t greener nowhere else! So stay in your lane, water THAT grass and surely you will begin to reap what you are sowing and watering!

So back to being the brand of your own life! There are 3 things as a single woman that must be in order BEFORE that next relationship in your life comes together! Your brain, your body & your purpose. I believe it is so IMPERATIVE that as a woman you know who you are, what you were created to be, where your life is going and looking good, because God forbid you don’t know these 3 core elements, some little boy (no matter how grown he thinks he is) will come in and try and set these elements for you. He’ll place a title on you ‘my woman’ and that’s all you’ll be. Then he’ll start playing with your body and you’ll become his ‘baby-momma’ and again that’s all you’ll be! But WHO ARE YOU?

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[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chief_executive_officer

Do not despise...

Have you ever wondered why your life or steps have been ordered in such a way? Ever wondered why you feel you are in constant service to others, your life is under pressure and feel your life lacks substance? Every prayer you pray you believe isn't being answered, because if it were, why haven't your cirucmstances changed?

I battle with this too...I sometimes question why the Lord has me in this state currently.  As I sat down to speak with Him this morning I realised that his promised 'peace that surpasses all understanding' is currently with me. If you knew the trials, tribulations, pressures and issues in my life...you like I, would be wondering, how am I still standing? And all I can say it is by His Grace and Mercy.

In the natural, without our Daddy to lean on, I believe life would come along and beat us left, right and centre! But in these seasons we must stand on his word! Truly, unbelivably press into Him through the storms of life; these are designed to bring us closer to Him not to push us away. You have to remember that if He's brought you to it, he will also bring you through it.

On entering His word this morning my Bible opened up to preparatrion scriptures! We are told not to despise small beginnings; in the wanting to pass through all these tests and dry seasons, we could miss out on the lessons intended for us to learn!

Exodus 3:1

'One day Moses was tending the flock of his Father-in-Law, Jethro, the priest of Midian. He led the flock into the wilderness and came to Sinai, the mountain of God'

The revelation I caught from this was so timely that I just had to share. As we go about life and question God why am I in this season, I am more than this and all I do is serve others, why do you have me doing this? We forget that menial preparation will always lead you back to God - meaning it will always keep you humble!  Before Moses became Leader of the Israelites I can imagine it was a raher lonely season for Moses, tending to the flock day in, day out, without a Word from God. But in this season of 'dryness' the Lord was teaching Moses lessons of faithfulness and general lessons that he had to  learn first, before becoming a leader.

He had to learn about the ways of people  he would be leading and also about life in the wilderness, for this is where he would spend 40years of his life! God was preparing him in this small things, making him ready for the Big things! I can assume in this season however, that there were many things God had to wean from Moses before he moved him to this next level and he certainly had to keep Him Humble.

Moses is a fine example of being faithful and humble in the things of God, for in 1 Corinthians 10:31 we are told that 'In everything we do, do it to God'. So it doesn't matter what people say, as long as you know why you are doing what you are doing, do it with a smile, knowing that there are things God must teach you in your humble beginnings, for your next level is so big, He loves you enough to prepare you for it! Just like us though, Moses was unable to appreciate this lesson, but God was getting him ready for the biggest assignment of his life!

Notice anything here, did God not do the SAME thing with David - soon to be King David? David was told he would become King, on recieving this Word he was then told to return to tending the sheep UNTIL the Lord was ready to send him to his next level.

Do not despise the small beginnings! Be faithful in the small things, so you will be faithful in the big! Remember He is not a Man that he should lie and every promise that sits in the bible, is for us to reach out and grab!

Obedience is better than sacrifice, stay in your lane!

God loves you!

EML xx

It's been a while...

Yes...it has been a while, and a lot has happened in this time!

I completed university, started a new blog confessionsofaselfpityparty.blogspot.co.uk (please check it out) and I've had a few personal seasons in my life come to an end...

Just thought I'd update today, to let my readers know that I will be blogging in this blog space again, so today is the start...

Please wait for a new post, coming soon.


EML xx

Everyday is a new day...for a new start with God

Have you ever had that hunger, that thirst and no matter what you do, until you get the food that you need there's nothing that can satisfy it, not even a glass of water?

That's how I've been feeling recently on my walk with God! To be honest I know I've been dipping my toe into such a huge sea of peace and joy that he has for me, but I chose to blame the demands of life! You know, that one line that everyone say 'there's just not enough time in the day'...'I just don't have enough time'. WRONG!

We are all given, by God's grace, 24 hours a day and 7days a week in which we are able to fulfill our purpose on a daily basis! So why are we complaining about the lack of time, I ask myself? And it falls down into that one word that we all hate DISCIPLINE!

Discipline as a woman of God is one of the upmost important aspects of your life, as it shows that you can glorify the Father in all that you do.1 Corinthians 10:31 clearly states 'So in whatever you do, do it to the glory of God'.

How can we glorify him without discipline? Without discipline comes turmoil and lack of direction. As women we are emotional, however we are able to discipline those emotions by following the leading of the Holy Spirit.

By sitting in his presence these past few days, He has shown me that if I Psalm 37: 'Be still and know that he is God' for all of 30 seconds, what he places on my spirit within those 30 seconds makes a path for me for that entire day! If I take that time out, knowing that my day cannot be started without him (that's discipline Ladies), victory, peace, joy and laughter is my portion for the day!

When I am 'unable' to place those first few moments of my day with him, I can promise you emotional chaos, fear, anxiety and sheer shambles is my day! For I now know that as a woman of the Most High he is my husband, my friend, my confidant and the moulder of my entire being!

Recently I've started reading A Woman who Reflects the Heart of Jesus by Theresa George, her book has begun to show me the true model of A Woman after God's Own Heart, and discipline is one of the key messages. As I said earlier, without discipline we are unable to glorify him. Discipline in places such as our mouth, our appetite, our walk and our life in general can really be achieved, but only by the leading of the Holy Spirit and a willingness and desire to leave an orderly life. It's important that we pray for the discipline and ask the Lord to help us with any areas where we are not disciplined for 'the truth shall set you free'.

As a woman, when you truly begin to know the source of your existence, the creator of every hair on your head, fingers and toes, just like the longing for food that we have in order to function, in order to be the best woman we can be, we must go back to the place where it all started and feed on his nourishing yet never failing love.

Stay blessed,

EML xx

First Post of 2012...

Well where do I start with the first post of the year...between now and my last post a lot has happened, however everything has always worked out for my good.

I feel today's post may take the direction of this blog slightly off course, but please bare with me for I'm being led by the Holy Spirit.

Today something quite poignant happened which led me to understand that in every aspect of life there is an element of competition; who will get the best grades, who will get the best Graduate job etc, but do we as humans truly have to apply that to every aspect of our lives? As I sat and pondered on that question it saddened me to think that his 'wordly' outlook is also applied to our relationships with people, siblings and whoever else may cross our paths.

Feelings of resentment can rise up in us when we feel we are left out in the cold, as someone takes a move forward in life; however we need to see it that the lack of openess is a door being opened to pride; and pride leads to many other deadly sins such as envy. To keep things close to your chest is never wrong,  as not every single thing we do in life needs to be aired to all those who feel they have a right to know. Nobody has a right to know every move you make, for you are a single entity in your own right, however if pride steps in and that's the reason for our 'secrecy' then we need to get to the root cause.

A little competition is healthy, but us women, we are the ball bearers, if not creators of competition! We compete with the men in our lives, feeling there is a constant need to let them know we don't need them i.e. they don't phone us so we don't phone them simply because we have been led to believe 'we don't need them' or anyone else for that matter, which is such a shame for in the bible it says 'No man is an island'. As women we compete in our friendships, with women on the road, especially if they are wearing the same items as us or seem to have a better relationship then us. Why can't we be happy for every body's current seasons? We compete with women who show interest in our men, sometimes we even compete with their Mothers. Its not a good look ladies and I know for sure that I stop this today! I ask the Lord to loose me of these spirits that do not meet up to His standards and stop feeling as if I need to adhere to the worlds standards of me.

I can say I feel in my spirit the Proverbs 31 woman did not suffer from such fleshy ways, as her works were always wise and to bless others. She focused on her purpose, her roles but always kept herself open and lacked in nothing.

As women may we act as virtuous women, walk non-threatened by anothers presence and guard your heart from such ways. May we open our doors to the needy and poor without feeling that we must keep all at a distance in case they happen to mess up our pretty little worlds.

I thank God for this revelation before I hit 24 in 13 weeks time, for I may be 24 in years but the Lord's wisdom surpasses even my own understanding.

Stay blessed.

EML xxx

P.S. Today the Lord caught my attention with Proverbs 14:4 'Without an oxen a stable stays clean, but you need a strong ox for a large harvest'. It confused me and my lack of understanding had to be put to bed, so I texted my Pastor in order to gain some understanding. As I've been typing this blog to you, I've spoken with her and her understanding has been as simple as this 'Without our participation in life, things will not happen the way we necessarily hope for, therefore if we want things to happen we must particpate in order to get the expected result'. We must depend on God and hook our faith onto his for only he can give us the strength of an Ox. Like the clean Ox, if we go through life without any trials or tribulations we will not gain any strength as we have no experience to fall back on; but from these we will rise up on eagles wings, with the strength of an Ox. We must take the first step and continue steadfast for the Lord will order our steps.

Such a word in season. Apologies for the lack of structure but I had to share the revelations of today with you.

Who determines your worth...

Who teaches you how to love and be loved? The world of today, the music of today? The magazine articles of today?

Who determines your value and worth? Who do you live for? Do you go through each day seeking and value and worth from others? From our husbands, partner, parents, even children? Look to the Truth, look up and understand that you are what GOD says you are! In Proverbs 31 it says we are 'as priceless as rubies'. In one simple sentence it states just how valuable we are as women! It means we are priceless, we are worth a lot more than who we think we're worth! Every woman, whether you're a woman of the world or a Woman of God, never forget that!

Now I've been there; compromised my morals, gave all I had and got nothing back. Gave up my life for a Man who didn't understand that I was made from man's rib, under his heart to be loved...not to be trampled on, but to be protected! I got my self-esteem from his praise, from his reactions to the things I did, but never once did I look to what God says about me! I always thought that his opinion mattered, I went to bed happy if he was happy with what I had done for HIM. Now do you see where that puzzle is wrong and doesn't fit? It was because I did not know my worth as a woman, I did not know what God, my Father, said about me! I did not know what God said about Love; how to love and how to be loved (1 Corinthians 13)

Its important as women that we see our value first and foremost, from the Word of God. We are special as women! Everything about you is wonderfully and perfectly made! We are a reflection of God's love for man for he said to Adam in the book of Genesis 'it is not good for man to be alone'. We are the female reflection of what a Man cannot express. That's why you must guard your heart and be careful to whom you give it too.

We're emotional creatures, we feel everything so deeply but outwardly. Do you know why? Again for we are the female extension of what a man cannot express! You have not been made by God to be abused, emotionally & physically; you've not been made by your Father, our King, to be ignored, laughed at, shunned and feel your worth is only in the physical pleasures you can bring! You have been made by God to fulfill and purpose and destiny which he has specifically designed for you. We're special; we birth children, we keep home, we love so deeply for a Man who is loved by a woman has a good thing. For in Proverbs 18:22 it says 'He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD'. Do you see that? We are GOOD! We enhance lives, we maximise, we increase favour :)

I listened to some very good advice from an extremely wise & special man, who holds and has very special place in my heart. His words to me were 'never lower the bar'. That means ladies, when you find a good man and God forbid it doesn't work out, never compromise or lower what your used to (baring in mind you must know your worth and value in God first). Never mould yourself into something else for someone else, for it is for the man to step up to your worth and value. He has to see how special you are, its not for you to make him see.

If you WAIT on the Lord 'blessed who are those who wait on the Lord'...he will send you your two! Now I can be an emotional mess sometimes, I'm pretty sure we all are. I can be moody, cry for no reason...I'm sensitive, I'm a big kid and the list goes on. Now do you know who you are? Never make the mistake of changes these things for anybody! Because the Lord will send people in your life that can handle what you are bringing. The Lord will send you someone who loves the fact that you are emotional, can be a mess, not afraid to show your emotions, will cry at a movie or even at Don't Tell The Bride because it's emotional (this happened yesterday). But yet you are strong, coreagous and know what you want from life. I speak from experience. Ground your roots in the Lord, the things of God for he is always working in an unseen place! He will send the person where you can be yourself, even in the process of when two become one, for you complete each other JUST the way you are.

I read somewhere that there are certain blessings a man cannot recieve without a wife, or woman for no man is an island. Some particular blessings come via a woman! Again, do you see how special you and I are? The roles we play in life are so important! Never forget your value, your worth and as you go about your day understand that you are what God says about you.

Follow The One, and he DOES lead you to your TWO :D xx

May God Bless You,

EML xxx

There's no time like the present...

They say when your spirit is low that the devil is trying to mess with you and  your breakthrough or deliverance must be around the corner! How many times have you heard that or had that said to you! The question is, do you believe? Now let's be honest, it's great to hear that the current sticky situation your in, if your anything like me, the tears, the tantrums and the restlessness are all because there's a breakthrough around the corner! Sounds like a 'cop-out' right....well no it's not, because God does show up in his perfect time! If you are willing to hear from him and place yourself in a position where he can speak to you!

Let me share my testimony with you....

The week started out like any other week; university, home & new job. I went into the week thinking right i'm ready, devil throw what you've got at me because my God is a God of good and not evil. He will protect me and all you do will bounce off me. I learnt the lesson the hard way! I came to the revelation that Christ does not stop us going through the fire, but it's who we call on and how we handle the fire that matters? For either way, he'll bring us through for in his Word it states so.

It got to about Thursday and the devil was messing with my mind, messing with my inner peace, the only thing is I didn't notice it! I woke up in a very low spirit and that was my day for the rest of the day and even into Friday. I classed it as 'one of those days' for two days straight! But unknown to me the Lord was working in an unseen place and my deliverance was only 48hours away! You see it doesn't take long for God to show up, even if its in the form of a preacher from Atlanta Georgia.

The message was entitled 'I'm Gonna Jump' and I certainly did that in more ways than one! It was made clear that the Lord gives you moments in life, a window of opportunity that you will never get again and I knew in my spirit I'm currently in my Kairos moment (a window of opportunity that will never be returned) and I HAVE to jump. The message was simple, jump or stay the same! So I choose to jump and keep looking forward!

I guess what I'm trying to get across to you is the Lord will only give you certain opportunities once in life. Remember, we have a free will. We can follow his word or not, either way he still loves us but surely you'd want the better path. It was as if the sermon was written just for me! The revelation I have caught is simple! Focus on the things that matter to me, and with or without you I'm jumping! In order for me to have all my hearts desires, I have to keep it moving! I began to realise that all I've been through was preparation for where I am now! For the current tasks the Lord has put in front of me! That means focus! So I obey...I am fully aware my obedience to God will no doubt upset people, but obedience to God is better than sacrifice!

I look forward to the future and hope you do to. Understand that every up and down you have been through is preparation for the next level in your life! Never regret it, embrace it! No matter what you have been through, God can still use you, because he has seen what you went through, as he knew your life from birth and he will continue to use you for his glory!

My question to you is, where will you be when your Kairos moment appears? And most importantly will you jump into the unknown or stay where your comfortable? I know where'd I'd rather be :)

There truly is no time like the present.... ;)

God Bless you,

EML xx